Five years ago, there was a mother. Like any other mother, she loved her children to bits. She tried her best to juggle full time work and family. Although physically tired on most days, she pushed herself to do more for her kids.
Feeling that she had too little time for her children, she left her job to look after her kids full time at home.
It was such a blissful life.
She felt fulfilled, happy and at peace, being able to be the sole caregiver for the children she loved the most. No longer did she need to feel torn between her job and her kids.
Being the perfectionist and focused individual that she was, she dived deep into her role as a stay at home mother. Taking care of her children’s needs, filling their lives with meaningful activities and outings, giving the family a clean home and warm meals as much as possible.
In the process of giving to her family, she very unwisely neglected herself.
At times she felt so overwhelmed and exhausted, trying to meet the needs of the family, she didn’t know what to do. How she longed to confide in her friends, but most of her friends are full time working mothers, with live-in domestic helpers or parents and in-laws to help out with the kids. Would they understand? She thought they most probably wouldn’t.
So, she was alone on most days, juggling.
Soon, she felt cut off, disconnected and very alone.
All the life and energy was gone. She became snappy and easily irritated. She fell into the pit of depression.
All these, simply because she has forgotten to take care of herself, throughout the years of busyness, taking care of the kids and the household.
Self-care for mothers is so vital, but very often neglected.
How do I know?
Oh yes I do.
Because I am that mother.
So dear mothers, especially the ones staying at home alone all day with the kids, without external help, take time to care for yourself.
Only when your basic needs are taken care of, do you have the capacity to care for others.
Don’t you think so?
Have you felt overwhelmed in your parenting journey and fell into depression? How did you get out of it?