As we enter Term 4 of the school calendar, many are feeling the heat of examinations.
I have always been a tad skeptical about schools’ seemingly obsession of assessing students. What is the big deal of all these assessments?
Exam results are but just a one time mark, graded in a one time situation. They do not determine a person’s worth.
Very often, the student has only one chance to get it right. It doesn’t matter if you were too tired, too distracted, or simply made a careless mistake.
You are given a mark for what you wrote once, in an instant.
There is no second chance.
And for major exams, such as the PSLE (Primary School Leaving Examinations) in Singapore, that one chance determines where you will spend the next 4 or 5 years of your Secondary School life.
No wonder both students and parents are stressed when examinations are near!
If we look at examinations objectively, how many of us today are a failure in life because we have failed some exams during our school days?
And how many of us can say that we are truly successful today simply because we have excelled in our exams?
Perhaps some of us are.
But I am pretty sure that there are many out there whose outcome in life has not been determined by the results they received years ago in an examination.
I have seen school dropouts turning into successful entrepreneurs and those with doctorates living miserable lives.
I am not discrediting the importance of examinations. After all, they have been around for ages.
I just want to put our perspectives right, as parents, especially with exams coming.
Our children’s worth and value is not determined by the marks they get in a school examination.
I expect my kids to work hard, not just to score well in an examination, but more so that they will learn the attitudes of discipline and hard work.
And I always tell my two boys, “Results are not everything, but attitude is. I will not be upset if you don’t do well in your exams. I will only be upset if you don’t have a positive attitude.”
So as we approach the year end examinations, these are some things we can do for our kids:
1. Set a reasonable timetable for our kids to do their revision.
2. Plan pockets of time for play and relaxation.
3. Emphasise the importance of discipline and hard work, instead of focusing on grades alone.
4. Most importantly, regardless of the marks they get, celebrate the fact that they have put in effort.
Are exam results a big deal to you? Share with us your comments, I’d love to hear your thoughts on this.