S… L… O… W… Down

“Mommy, don’t scold me…”

“I’m sorry, Mommy… I’m sorry…”

These are words spoken by my boys to me. Words that brought a pang of guilt and pain to my heart.

They are words that made me stop and think. Words that made me question, “What have I done to these little ones in the midst of my rushing through a hectic pace of life?”

Sometimes I feel that my days are lived in a hurry. Especially so during school days. Our 3 kids start and end school at different timings. As a result, they have breakfast at 3 different timings, and lunch at another 3 different timings.

The first week of school has just passed and I’m already feeling worn out… we have 39 more weeks to go. I can’t wait for the 2 boys to be in the same school session next year!

Most days I feel that I am constantly in a hurry. Hurrying so that we don’t miss the school bus. Hurrying so that they won’t be late for school. Hurrying so that they have time for a proper lunch before heading to school. Hurrying so that dinner can be served on time. Hurrying so that they can go to bed early and not be too tired the next day.

And in the midst of all these hurrying and rushing, I had unknowingly expected my kids to hurry too. I snap at them to do things faster, eat faster, shower faster, don’t talk so much, don’t ask questions, just do it, hurry, hurry, hurry…

When they dawdled a little, they were reprimanded. When they stopped to enjoy the moment, they were being rudely rushed. When all they wanted to do was to simply have time to discover and play, they were given a “No, there is no time to play now!” as an answer.

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After a long lecture by me today for not getting ready fast enough for his school bus, Jay started apologising.

That made me sad.

And I realised.

I need to SLOW DOWN.

We all need to slow down.

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I’m not sure how, but there must be a way for a slower pace of life (besides migrating, that is)!

I am reminded of this popular poem “Slow Down, Mummy”, which I have read months ago. I read it again today and it made me tear.

Slow Down, Mummy
by Rebekah Knight

Slow down mummy, there is no need to rush,
slow down mummy, what is all the fuss?
Slow down mummy, make yourself a cup of tea.
Slow down mummy, come and spend some time with me.

Slow down mummy, let’s put our boots on and go out for a walk,
let’s kick at piles of leaves, and smile and laugh and talk.
Slow down mummy, you look ever so tired,
come sit and snuggle under the duvet and rest with me a while.

Slow down mummy, those dirty dishes can wait,
slow down mummy, lets have some fun, lets bake a cake!
Slow down mummy I know you work a lot,
but sometimes mummy, its nice when you just stop.

Sit with us a minute,
& listen to our day,
spend a cherished moment,
because our childhood is not here to stay!

(Source)

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13 thoughts on “S… L… O… W… Down

  1. Love this Ing… I wonder why Singapore is always in a rush, rush to be the fastest growing nation, rush to be number one, everyone’s rushing up and down the bus… I’ve been asking myself how to set ourselves apart from this culture and yet not be left behind :p

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    1. It really seems so. Just a ride on the MRT during peak hours and you get to see the crazy rushing. I guess that’s the way life is here. Hard to be apart from this culture. Let me know if you have any tips!

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  2. 39 weeks to go?! That’s enough time to produce a whole human baby lol!!

    Thank you for this timely reminder. I often feel so harried and flustered, I think it doesn’t help that I’m the type who is always punctual, likes to plan, etc (but I don’t think I’m Type A lah). I really need to slow down and respond to them with more love than discipline… Haiz.

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    1. That was the exact thought that came to me when I wrote 39 weeks! LOL! It seems so long. I feel tired already, ha. Oh, I’m very much like you too. Likes to plan, wants to be punctual… I need to show more patience and grace to my kids.

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  3. Thanks for this article. I’m guilty for rushing all the time too.. To me, punctuality is very important, but sometimes I feel I’m too hard on my children. Thanks for this reminder.. Now I know I’m not alone at rushing.. But I definitely need to slow down.

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    1. Hi Qian Wen, thanks for sharing your thoughts. I too feel that I’m too hard on my kids sometimes. In fact, too often. Thanks for letting me know I’m not the only one! Let’s try together! 🙂

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  4. Ing, I am looking forward to single session too! I think your boy and my kids’ schools are the rare ones that hold double session. The arrangement for almost everything is difficult. Even when my boy’s piano teacher wants to hold a make up class on a weekday afternoon, we could not make it. Oh, I love that slow down mummy poem. It really touches a tender chord within and I am really guilty of whatever you say here. Rushing the kids and always saying “no time to do this and that”. If only all of my paces are slow and relaxing. If only all the words that come out of my mouth are soothing and loving words. Thanks for this timely reminder. I need constant reminders like this to re-balance my stressful and hurried life 🙂 I hope it is ok with you if I used this poem in my up-coming blog post. I think I need to document on the blog to revisit it from time to time.

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    1. Oh Christy, so I am not the only one in this double-session-madness! You’re in the same plight as me. It’s crazy isn’t it? As for the poem, it is not penned by me. If you use it, do credit the author Rebekah Knight. Her blog url can be found in the post. 🙂

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  5. oh my…. this sounds so much like me “And in the midst of all these hurrying and rushing, I had unknowingly expected my kids to hurry too. I snap at them to do things faster, eat faster, shower faster, don’t talk so much, don’t ask questions, just do it, hurry, hurry, hurry…”

    I am always hurrying my kids everyday… its also impatient part in me.. Thank you for this post 🙂

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